Buddhi and Todd discuss who cooks for their family.
Buddhi: Can you tell me about general roles in America? Is it that women do cooking or the men help out or how is it done?
Todd: I think it’s changed a lot over the years. It’s similar to what you said in your country. America’s probably maybe one of the leading countries in trying to make it more equal, so yeah, so now it’s … the men are supposed to help cook and clean and stuff. But actually what I find interesting is that over time I think people still settle into their old habits. I think that young couples start off that the husbands gonna cook and he’s gonna help clean but as they get older naturally it does seem like women revert to more caretaking roles and men kind of get lazy I think. You know. Although, I have to say, growing up my step-father was pretty amazing. He was really good at cooking and he cooked a lot and he actually used to get home before my mother. She also worked. So he would do the most of the cooking, and he was actually the better cook, but my mom’s a good cook too.
Buddhi: So looking at him, did you ever want to learn cooking and did you ever think like, “OK, when I grow up I’ll always help whoever was around.”
Todd: No, it was actually …. I’m quite ashamed. I never did really learn cooking from him or my mother, so they never really showed me, so even to this day I’m a pretty terrible cook. So what about you? Did your mother show you how to cook?
Buddhi: She did, it’s just that I didn’t learn and my brother ended up learning all the cooking and he’s a very good cook right now, and it makes me be very ashamed of myself, but …
Todd: So wait a minute. Wait a minute. Your mom actually took the time to show you how to cook, and you say you still can’t cook?
Todd: Why? What happened?
Buddhi: I don’t know. I don’t know. Sri Lankan cooking is so difficult and it takes … it’s really time consuming, but I wouldn’t want to say that out too loud cause there are some like many good cooks as well, it’s just that I’m not good at it, but …. I mean, I’m not that that bad. It’s just that my food don’t turn out to be as good as my mom’s.
It’s similar to what you said.
‘Similar’ means almost the same. Notice the samples.
- Cricket and baseball may look similar, but they are actually very different.
- My best friend and like similar fashions. We swap clothes all the time.
I hate to cook and clean and stuff.
Here, ‘and stuff’ means ‘other things’. Notice the following.
- She has to stay home on Saturday and do yard work, clean her room; stuff like that.
- I’m going to help my mom buy food, cook dinner, do the dishes and stuff.
Over time, people settle into their old habits.
When we settle into something, we become comfortable with it. Notice the samples.
- After a week, he began to settle into his new schedule.
- I’m going to stay home this weekend and settle into my new apartment.
care taking role
Traditionally, women assumed a care taking role.
Here, ‘care taking’ means to take care of children and house work. Here are two samples.
- My wife works so I’m the family care taker.
- Though equality of men and women is important in American culture, women still most often assume the care taking role.
whoever is around
He helped whoever was around.
‘Whoever is around’ talks about people around you. Notice the sample sentences.
- Ask whoever is around. They’ll show you where it is.
- I always use my headphones so I don’t bother whoever is around.
My brother ended up learning all the cooking.
‘Ended up’ talks about what we finally do at the end of a situation. Notice the following.
- I was so tired, I ended up not going at all.
- We ended up sleeping on the beach. It was cheaper and much more fun!
Cooking Sri Lankan food is really time consuming.
Something that is time consuming takes a long time to finish. Here are two samples.
- Learning English is really time consuming.
- The hike up the mountain was time consuming, but worth it.
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